Don’t Forget to Ask Aladdin’s Genie for Self-Worth!

If one day Aladdin’s Genie appears in front of you and says to you, “Whatever you wish from me”, of course, ask for health, money, career, etc., but do not forget to ask for this very important thing…

 

We are talking about the sense of self-worth that will accompany you in success, failure, in evaluating your own life, in witnessing the lives of others, and that will take root in you as you breathe and breathe.

Do not neglect to ask Aladdin’s Genie for self-worth!

We will talk a little assertive, but when the sense of self-worth does not develop in a person or, let alone development, if the sense of self-worth is in the minus, that is, if the person feels existentially worthless, insignificant, insignificant, impressive bank accounts, enviable career profiles, houses, mansions will not bring much happiness and the feeling of being satisfied with the precious life.

And believe us, this is not just a poor man’s consolation.

 

It is very important for a person to have a strong, balanced sense of self-worth in order to lead a happy, peaceful and fulfilled life.

 

What is Self-Worth?

Although understandings and measurements change, throughout human history there has been a distinct understanding of beauty, aesthetics, or a criterion of success and failure, shaped by the characteristics of the times.

Self-worth, also known as self-worth, is seeing and feeling oneself as a valuable, important and deserving being, regardless of one’s talents, virtues, appearance, visible and measurable achievements.

Depending on our characteristics, each of us can be approved, disapproved, deemed inadequate, ostracised or given a standing ovation by our close circle or society.

All of this can be good or bad for our ego.

Self-worth and the outside world

It is quite understandable that we measure our self-worth by the reactions we receive from the ‘outside world’, because as homo sapiens we are social beings.

In evolutionary terms, our ancestors survived by being part of society.

According to experts in attachment theory, a baby first sees itself through the eyes of its caregivers.

These eyes are our first mirrors.

And what was the basic emotion in the eyes we first saw?

Joy?
Happiness?
Anxiety?
Fear?
Anger?
Or was the gaze dull?

Experts say that babies and children accept everything they hear and see without question.

 

In other words, our sense of self, our first ideas about who we are grow and develop in the same house with us.

Some of us are lucky in this regard, but let’s be honest, some of us are quite unlucky.

In some houses, in order to receive love and attention, it is necessary to be successful, to live according to the rules of that house, to fulfil the expectations of the house.

The lucky ones, on the other hand, even if they get bad grades in history, even if they have some protrusions, even if they do not reach the social success criteria, they are loved, compassionate and cared for just because they exist.

Children from such homes are not evaluated according to external criteria, but according to their own characteristics.

The love given to them is not conditional; it is natural, generous and spontaneous.

This love strengthens existence.

Its strong, warm feeling envelops a person for life.

This love is the first foundation of our sense of self-worth.

If our path has not passed through a house like the one we have just mentioned, or if for various other reasons the value we give to ourselves always comes from the criteria of the outside world, it means that our relationship with ourselves will always be on a ground of uncertainty.

Because the outside world is very variable, full of different views, different currents, different ideas.

 

“If people like us, we’ll feel good.”

“If we succeed, we’ll be happy.”

To feel valuable, we need to be applauded almost constantly.

 

However, such an understanding is exhausting, consuming and distracts us from ourselves, and with this understanding we may find ourselves in a performance tent that never stops.

Although as children we passively receive the answers to who we are and the necessary approval of our personality from the outside, as adults we can take steps to remove ourselves from this spiral and live at peace with our own reality.

A sense of self-worth is a healthy sense of competence. It is allowing yourself to live your life to the fullest, as you wish.

 

Let’s look at the personality traits of people with a strong sense of self-worth:

• People with a strong sense of self-worth do not judge themselves, they develop themselves to lead happy, easy, peaceful and productive lives.
• They are supportive, not judgmental, of themselves and those around them.
• They accept that they will sometimes succeed and sometimes fail in life and that this situation is natural.
• They see their physical and emotional needs clearly; they meet these needs naturally.
• They recognise that they cannot win the approval of everyone in the world.
• They are not interested in being the centre of attention all the time; they prefer to build deep relationships.
• They do not constantly pour their energy outwards, but keep a significant part of it within so that they can be nourished from within.
• They strike a beautiful, nourishing balance between socialising and being alone.
• They do not constantly seek other people’s approval of their own worth.
• They are not narcissistic, they do not claim to know the best of everything. They do not believe in the concept of “the best”.
• Respect for everything and everyone is a basic, natural understanding that permeates all their behaviour.
• They may laugh at themselves and make fun of themselves, but they do not use themselves as an appetiser to make others laugh.
• They love themselves; they stand up for themselves or are open to social support when going through difficult emotions and situations.

Finally, people with a strong sense of self-worth:

They see themselves as part of the whole.

Neither more nor less important.

A natural part of the whole…